EFT helps couples experience each other in new ways that transform their relationship.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) was founded by Dr Sue Johnson. It is a new way to understand adult love relationships, based on John Bowlby’s attachment theory. EFT can be successful in helping couples improve their relationship and deepen their emotional bond. EFT has been supported by over thirty years of research that supports its effectiveness.
EFT is based on the fact that people are inherently social beings, “hardwired” to develop and maintain strong emotional ties with our partner and loved ones. Thus. We know that people are strongly attached to their partners and that we rely on our partners for comfort and support. Attachment helps people be stronger and braver in the world. EFT states that we need our partner to be accessible, responsive, and engaged.
EFT views that relationships can become frozen in the loss of secure emotional connection. When this happens, a negative cycle or “dance” develops whereby each partner attempts to cope with their loss of connection. When couples enter negative cycles, they express anger, criticism, moving away from contact, icy silence, or unhelpful distractions. Once they take hold, negative cycles can be triggered by the smallest behaviour or statement. As time passes these cycles erode trust and security in the relationship. EFT helps couples stop the negative cycles, first by identifying and mapping the cycle, then helping the partners identify and express their needs to each other in a way that helps each other to develop and express greater understanding, compassion and empathy. Hopefully then each partner can express more loving, compassionate responses.
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